Monday 31 August 2015

Real Life: Dark Circles & Exhaustion

Being a mom is great. But being a mom also means putting myself second.

I've always known that placing myself second would be pretty challenging since I love taking care of myself.  There's nothing wrong with doing things for me, but nowadays I rarely do. YES, I miss it. 
Ever since Noah came into our lives - we've been learning many things about him & ourselves.  For one, I was never a patient person. With baby, I find myself practicing patience even when I DON'T want to!  

The most challenging days are the ones where I just don't know why he's crying.  He isn't much of a crier to begin with,  unless he's tired or hungry. Go figure.  Other than that, he's pretty relaxed. When he's not hungry or tired & he cries, I get the most anxious.  I find myself trying "everything" I've learned to get him to stop, and the few times it doesn't ....I feel LOST.  I'm sure I'm NOT the only MOM to feel this way.... so, this is why I'm writing this today.  Real life has an interesting way of surprising us & making us face our our biggest fears.  Every single day I realize I'm facing new challenges & new fears while raising our son, and I can't stress enough... the importance of patience.  I'll be honest, I'm still trying to master the patience 'mode' myself.  

As I write this, another thought is running through my mind..... BUSINESS + BABY.  Believe it or not, I am still trying to manage my business while raising our son.  Yes, I have some p/t help with a nanny & family members, but I find myself letting go of one thing or the other.  Don't get me wrong, I love what I do,  but I also know that Noah will need more of my time at some point.  In my heart, I've always wanted to be a mom...but not an 'absent- mom' where work becomes more important than my family.  So many thoughts keep coming to mind about just quitting my work & focusing more on him for a few years.  Although he drains most of my energy, I love being around him & his BIG smile. He is such a blessing.

I'll be blunt, the thought of being a stay-at-home mom SCARES the heck out of me.  Why? Well, I always imagined it would be boring & lack the amount of creative outlet I'm used to.  I honestly would love to know if any moms out there quit their jobs to tend to their kids at home?  Would that be a life that would drive me crazy? OR would I embrace it?  How many moms out there are doing both??? Working & caring for their kids? or How many moms left work altogether to care for their children? -  I've been wondering about this.


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-please excuse my punctuation, I am obviously not an English major.

design: decorating your small entryway

The good thing about the entryway, is that no matter how small it is, it's possible to glam it up. A small console can go a long way with great accessories and some killer art. I love absolutely everything about those entryways below from the abstract paintings to the little furry stools and gold details. I think my heart is won by the monochrome one though, which one do you prefer??




1 Zincdoor // 2 Etsy // 3 Kathy Kuo home // 4 Target // 5 H&M // 6 Shopcandelabra // 7 Amara // 



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Thursday 27 August 2015

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                                       WHY MARRY

A marriage without sex is a lot like a burger without the bun. What�s the point of calling it a �burger� if it isn�t exactly complete? For the past few years, social scientists have been studying sexless marriages for clues about what can go wrong in relationships and factors leading to the issue. In an article last year from the National Post, author and marital therapist, Andrew G. Marshall stated that sexless marriages have become the latest epidemic many married couples are silently facing today.

For Lucy, 30, in suburban Arkansas, sex has always been a thrill. It gave her energy for the day, brightened her mood, and connected her in rather intimate ways with her husband of thirteen years, Jeremy, 32. As the couple got married fairly young, Lucy continues to study hard in college, but often tired between school and her day job, so she heads to bed early and is usually fast asleep before her husband joins her. Lucy shares how in many ways, things started going sour in their seventh year of marriage, a condition researchers call �the seven year itch�, a psychological term suggesting that happiness in a relationship declines around year seven.

�I just felt like it was the same old routine,� she says. �I just didn�t feel too happy about it. We would have date night, go out, have fun like old times, and get frisky, but it�s just not for me anymore. With school and everything going great for me right now professionally, I don�t find it to be a priority. We haven�t had sex for four years now.�

Extensive research and studies by experts estimate that a staggering 40 million Americans are having a sexless marriage, one where there is little to no sexual intimacy or activity occurring between the two spouses. The stats have jumped in recent years from a mere 2% reporting in 1994, to an astounding 15% to 20% in 2003; with studies showing that 10% or less of the married population below the age of 50 have not had sex in the past year, and 20% or less reported having sex a few times per year under the age of 40.

Licensed marriage and family therapist, Melissa Risso, M.A Counseling Psychology, of San Mateo, California comments that for some couples, a sexless marriage may look understandable from the surface, but there are many key indicators for common reasons of why two spouses might head in that direction, citing children; physical concerns like disabilities, aging; STDs, AIDS, or HIV; as were past sexual abuse or trauma; lack of confidence, including low self-esteem; medical side-effects; lack of sexual desire or attraction to spouse or each other; sexual orientation concerns; or, a lack of communication or trust.

Trust was a major factor for Jennifer, 29 of rural Indiana, whose husband of 10 years had an affair with more than one woman after their third year of marriage, and was caught a little over six months ago for watching pornography.

�I don�t want to have sex with someone who watches porn and has openly cheated on me,� she says assertively. �Sure, I have learned to forgive him as per my sessions in church counselling and maybe I can blame myself for being too busy to attend his needs, but I just don�t feel connected to him any longer. A lot of my friends and family ask why I�m still with [my husband] Scott, but that�s because of my vow and promise to the church. We need to stay married.�

With such a promise upheld, it doesn�t seem like one can find their way to happiness with such a thought as a sexless marriage and other factors leading to it, and which have sometimes been cited as grounds for divorce.

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Can you have a happy marriage without the sex?

Risso shares how even though many couples are happy in their marriage without feeling the need to involve sex, she discloses that an estimated 1 in 5 couples today are considered sexless.

�The important piece to keep in mind is both partners need to communicate to one another as to what sex looks like within their marriage,� she says. Risso provides a list of questions couples should ask themselves and their partners:

�         How will sex play a role in our marriage?

�         What does sex mean to me and my marriage?

�         Can we be happy without sex? If not, what does sex need to look like in our marriage (frequency, acts, etc.)?

�         What are my sexual wants, needs, desires?

�         What does it look like to be sexually happy in our marriage?

�Regardless of where couples stand, having an open discussion and communication around sex can help create the happiness couples may seek or want within their marriage,� Risso says. �Sex holds many different meanings to individuals and the only people that can determine whether or not a marriage is healthy with or without sex are the couples that are in that very marriage.�

Paul and Lori Byerly of The Marriage Bed, in Deer Park, Washington, are Christians teaching married couples that sex is good and important in a devout marriage. The two share how couples should take a look at the health of a relationship as a good early warning barometer to avoid becoming another statistic in the silent epidemic. The dynamic duo believe that if the relationship is already a mess like in the case of Jennifer and Scott, not wanting sex in a marriage is an understandable reaction.

�If the relationship is decent [though], I don�t see why not wanting sex could be anything other than an indication of a problem,� Paul says; as wife, Lori adds, �I would think it is a sign that there is some problem, personally or relational.�

Lori shares that even though sex is one of the several aspects of a marriage, when you start seeing all the other areas like communication, couple time, and overall touch and other intimate attributes starting to slide, sex is not far behind.

In the case of Scott, Paul shares how heavy internet porn can become a contributing factor in a sexless marriage. �Some men reach a point of preferring porn and masturbation to real sex, while others start finding it difficult to get an erection or climax without porn,� he says.

Is sex really that important to a marriage?

While Paul and Lori both share the same sentiment that there are women and a few men who will say yes, they both believe the other spouse would disagree.

�If neither wants sex, which is rare, they may be okay,� Paul says. �[But] it will not be the same as a marriage with sex, [though] it could be happy. If the one who wants sex can get past not having it, a similar relationship is possible. But getting past that is very difficult because it feels like a personal slight.�

�If you had a choice, would you?� Lori asks. �It feels amazingly good and it builds a unique kind of intimacy.�

While many studies have been conducted around the impact sex plays in a marriage, in likeness, Risso says though sex may not be applicable to all marriages. Most research has shown couples who reported to be having sex more frequently were indeed more happier. �Whether or not this can be applied to everyone is questionable,� she says. �But, studies do support the idea that sex does correlate to happiness in the marriage.�

Risso goes on to share that many in the field of human sexuality would state that sex within a marriage allows for a couple to create deeper intimacy by connecting on an emotional and sexual level. She expands further, stating how each couple needs to ask themselves about the importance of sex in their marriage as the two parties may each view sex very differently within the marriage, with certain factors contributing to the lack, like religion, cultural expectations, age, sex drive, or how a person was raised around the topic of sex.

Both Paul and Lori echo Risso�s thoughts and agree upon the importance of sex in a marriage. �Sex does good things for our bodies, minds, emotions and our relationship. A marriage without sex has a couple of strikes against it, and less ability to deal with problems,� Paul says.

Lori continues with that thought, sharing, �I think what I see most is that regular sex can soften your feelings toward each other. It builds a sense of being a couple.�

What happens when one wants sex, but the other doesn�t?

Paul discloses the ugly side and says, �Anger, resentment, and arguments are common. Growing distant can easily happen if the situation is not resolved. There is also a temptation to look elsewhere for sex, which will also hurt the marriage.�

Risso discloses how many couples come into her office seeking sex therapy due to this very concern and shares working with the couple as to how they can communicate and trust one another on the topic of sex is crucial. �Some couples have come to the conclusion that each partner needs to compromise on certain aspects when it comes to sex.�

She goes on to say how the dynamics can change due to one or more partners not agreeing upon sex in their marriage. �This sometimes can lead to couples questioning divorce and, or, whether they can be happy.�

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Anthony and his wife, Margot, both 32 of Elko, Nevada, have been married for 12 years this April but don�t have the best marriage as per Anthony. �We never fight, which is nice, but we don�t exactly see eye-to-eye anymore. I work at a bank, she is a homemaker, and even though we get along on a lot of things, we�re not compatible in bed,� he reveals. �We got married really young and it just felt right at that moment. I felt like it was what I was supposed to do. I wanted to marry her because I thought it would enhance me in some way, but after all these years I feel empty inside.�

Though he is discreet about it, Anthony discloses he has been having an affair with a co-worker and someone who has fast become his best friend who he admits, has intense passion for. �She�s great and the more we spend time together, the more I realize how happy she makes me feel. We have connected through sex and to be honest, I didn�t realize the importance of sex in a relationship until I met her.�

At this point, Anthony is not sure how to approach his wife and express his concerns, particularly that of a divorce in order to give his new relationship a chance.

Through our discussion, Risso stresses communication, sharing how those that tend to be happier in their marriages are the people that talk it out with their partners regarding their sex lives, as well as other aspects of their marriage. �Relationships are found to have healthier lasting outcomes when both partners discuss needs and wants while respecting their partner�s perspective as well,� she says.

Paul and Lori think otherwise, with Paul saying, �If the one who wants [sex] is willing and able to keep going, the relationship might last. Usually it does continue a good while, but the couple grows apart until they are [more] like room mates, than husband and wife.�

Lori adds, �Unless the sex hungry spouse can learn to live peaceably with the situation�which is difficult�the lack of sex is likely going to cause friction in the relationship.�

Such was the situation for Joseph, 56, of Goshen, New York. Joseph had been married for 33 years and discloses how after having their fourth child (now 26) with wife, Natalie, 52, they stopped having sex entirely.

�It was hard on me,� he says. �I felt like we drifted apart. She was so busy raising the kids and the 90s were hard on me, job-wise. We just didn�t really feel like best friends anymore. I sometimes think maybe she wasn�t my best friend at all and that we had married in a haze of momentary bliss. But I think that�s important�you need to be able to confide wholeheartedly to your spouse and feel like you can talk to them about anything; they need to be your best friend. I couldn�t tease her, grope her, and have playful dates again. Sex became a task for us, so that all stopped happening with my wife. We got divorced after my youngest became 20, and they always say to me now, �Dad, you and mom should have gotten divorced earlier.� I wish I expressed how I felt earlier in and out of the bedroom, because the lack of sex is a big deal and definitely takes a lot out of one�s self-esteem. I�m only realizing that now and I�m only now finding my happiness.�

Communication in and out of the bedroom is essential for a flourishing and healthy marriage. Paul and Lori say it is absolutely necessary, with Lori adding, �You have to communicate to be understood. That doesn�t happen naturally between people with a variety of differences.�

Risso says successful communication inside and outside of the bedroom is needed in order to deepen one�s understanding of their partner and explore more about him or herself, as it builds trust and intimacy. If it does not occur, this can ultimately have a negative effect on one�s relationship.

�Studies have shown that sexual communication is directly linked to sexual satisfaction,� Risso says. �It is the idea that if one is comfortable discussing sex with their partner, then he or she would be comfortable to do so during sex.�

If neither one is communicating in the bedroom, is there hope for sexual intimacy?

Risso sees great difficulty in trying to strictly create sexual intimacy. �Understanding your partner�s wants and needs allows for a deeper connection and satisfaction to take place. Creating an open dialogue around sex can deepen trust and intimacy, and ultimately show acceptance of your partner.�

Paul and Lori agree and come to a similar thought, with Paul sharing that it is difficult to impossible when creating sexual intimacy in the bedroom. �A few couples find non-verbal ways of communicating about sex, and a few manage to just stumble along, but most couples in this situation will see a decline in their sex life over time.�

He goes on to add that though some men and a very few women are okay with �just sex�, it rarely stays that way for both spouses.

�It�s funny,� Lori starts. �But, we don�t ask that question of any other area of our marriages. Yes, we need to communicate how to raise the kids, what purchases to make, where we will vacation�and if we don�t, we understand the following misunderstandings and general fussiness. Sex isn�t any different. You have to communicate to understand each other and grow together.�

Through communication, emotional intimacy is built, something Risso says is fundamental for connecting to your spouse on a sexual level. �Many couples have come into my office expressing the importance of having an emotional connection to their partners because it has allowed them to feel understood and respected�all important for building trust and connection.�

Paul says it�s imperative to work on the sex and relationship at the same time. �Look for new ways to connect and new ways to enjoy each other both sexually and non-sexually. The biggest thing is for both spouses to commit to growth in both areas.�

Lori follows up and encourages couples to be up front about wanting to rebuild intimacy. �As Paul said, to build the marriage on all fronts�do a little in each area of your marriage and give each other something to work with in creating intimacy.�

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Final Thoughts

Sex is a basic human need and one that is not to be regarded as a taboo topic. In many ways, it is an acceptable fact that couples will be involved in sex in order to grow closer with one another and build a bond. In a study nearly two years ago, scientists discovered that love and sex, though very different can overlap, ultimately turning lust to love. However, partners believe that they will be fulfilled in every way within their marriage�and that includes sex. After all, consummating the union is an essential component of getting married. Rejection in any facet can lead to enormous resentment between the two spouses, especially if one feels cheated in a seemingly healthy relationship. Such resentment can lead to all sorts of underlying issues that could create a bottle-and-cap sort of effect, leading to divorce.

From the studies concluded with the participants, one can assume that many couples who get married so young end up having such high expectations when going into the union. They end up rushing their ideals and themselves, and  choose someone for where they are currently�not where they are going. In many ways, when one begins to mature in the relationship, they wonder why the other hasn�t progressed with them, thus growing apart. The advice of Risso and the Byerlys clearly supports the belief of maintaining communication. Through communicating, you will be able to figure out where you want to go in a relationship.

Some people will live in sexless marriages for years and though they may not be complete or happy; maybe even be in denial, there is no doubt that the lack of sex will create some tension and resentment within the relationship, eventually threatening its very existence. As discussed with our panel, either one of the spouses will lose his or her sex drive, as the other continues to crave it. When this happens, the chances of divorce in the future may increase dramatically. Of course, it is difficult to decipher how many divorced couples broke up due to the lack of sex, even with other contributing factors leading up and adding into a trickle effect, but we can assume increased tensions between the couple, and overall bad feelings within the sexless relationship can bring about a separation.

From the research concluded, it seems the longer a couple goes without being intimate, both emotionally and sexually, the more doubt they will ultimately start to feel. In the cases with our participants (whose names have been changed), it seems the lack of communication will run through a cycle that will only increase the lack of trust, growing resentment and distancing, as well as emotional discomfort. By not talking about the problems a sexless couple might face, it will only damage the relationship in the long run and put a greater stress on the two involved. The unadulterated truth is that being intimate in both ways is the key to a happy and healthy relationship.

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Hawking proposes new idea for how information might escape from black holes



So I�m at this black hole conference in Stockholm, and at his public lecture yesterday evening, Stephen Hawking announced that he has figured out how information escapes from black holes, and he will tell us today at the conference at 11am.
As your blogger at location I feel a certain duty to leak information ;)

Extrapolating from the previous paper and some rumors, it�s something with AdS/CFT

Monday 24 August 2015

Behind-the-scenes Photo Shoot Video

Earlier this year, we shot for Adore Magazine in my studio space.  

Photographer, Taleen Dersdepanian shot some amazing images of me in a flowery Milly Dress while Makeup artist Mayela Vazquez did my makeup. (which I loved).  I wanted to share this behind-the-scenes short promo video they shot during our photoshoot. Check it out below. 

Hope you had a lovely weekend!
 

Here's the video, it needs a little brightening... but you get the picture. Click on full screen to get a better view! ENJOY!



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Scientific American has a special feature to celebrate the 100th anniversary of General Relativity, and I wrote a contribution about Thought Experiments.
Believe it or not, but together with the awesome Naomi Lubick I wrote this week's feature article for New Scientist. It is about the research by Glenn Starkman et al summarized in this paper.
I was interviewed by a NYC based

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Friday 21 August 2015

The origin of mass. Or, the pion�s PR problem.



Diagram depicting pion exchange
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Thursday 20 August 2015

Summer Favorite: Lace Up Flats

Have you seen the "it" shoes all over instagram and on fashion blogs? I'm talking about the Lace Up Flats by M. Gemi - The Brezza from Italy.  Too bad, they're SOLD OUT.  I know, I know... they do have a hefty price tag (cha-ching)...but I bet they're made amazingly well!   I've always loved Italian shoes for their quality.

If you're not willing to dish out for the Brezza, there are many other options floating around online you may also like!  I found a few similar styles if you're also stalking this show like I am.  - I already have the Finest Ghillie Lace up flats from top shop, which you'll find in a few other colors & options if you search their site. 

So, tell me ladies - Are any of you stalking these shoes too?!?!?


Have a nice weekend everyone!! 


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1. M. Gemi The brazza
2. loeffler randall lace up flats
3. lace up flats anthropologie
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My Tibi Picks

Hello everyone! It's getting close to the end of the week & the weather here in NYC is SERIOUSLY humid.  I'm NOT a fan of humidity SO so when I need to shop for clothing, I end up shopping online instead of battling the sticky heat.

Enter Tibi ....this is one of those shops I go to when I want a great flowyyy skirt. I admit though, Tibi - although one of my faves, isn't always as affordable for me. I do love their shop, their clothing is always so chic & sophisticated. You'll definitely want to check them out! My top picks for late-summer at Tibi are below.

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Tuesday 18 August 2015

Hello Jeans: Charge your phone in your jeans

Have you been out so long that your phone died?

Maybe you were checking your email or skimming through instagram - either way, when our phones runs low on battery, many of us get anxious! I know I do! -  Sometimes it even feels like a dead phone is being disconnected from the world.  Let's face it, many of us live on our phones.  We use it for almost everything.  Every chic & trendy gal wants to have a working phone when she's on the go! So, what happens when your phone is running low on battery? Let me introduce you to #Hello Jeans from Joe's Jeans

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Tuesday distraction: New music video

When a few weeks ago someone in a waterpark jumped into my left side and cracked a rib, I literally got a crash course in human anatomy. I didn't really appreciate just how often we use our torso muscles, which I was now painfully made aware of with every move. I could neither cough, nor run, nor laugh without wincing. Sneezing was the worst, turning over in bed a nightmare. I also had to notice

Saturday 15 August 2015

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L-Arginine, the Prosexual Nutrient with Numerous Health Benefits

It's the disorder no one wants to talk about, yet according to the Journal of the American Medical Association, 43% of women and 31% of men suffer from sexua

l dysfunction.1 Sexual dysfunction is broadly defined as the inability to fully enjoy sexual intercourse. Women generally experience it as a loss of libido (sexual drive) and/or the inability or difficulty in achieving an orgasm. Men experience it as impotence, known technically as erectile dysfunction.

Based on hundreds of studies, L-arginine, an essential amino acid and one of the building blocks of proteins in the body, has become known as a safe and effective prosexual nutrient for men and women.

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L-Arginine is a

precursor of nitric oxide (NO) in the human body. In the 1990s, scientists discovered that not only is NO an essential compound that helps blood circulation, but it is important to normal sexual function in both men and women. Without arginine there would be no NO, and without NO, men would not be able to have erections.

How L-Arginine WORKS

Insufficient blood flow is a major cause of incomplete erection in men.

L-Arginine has been shown to improve blood flow to the genital area by dilating blood vessels and helping the penis to enlarge to its full capacity, thus increasing the size, hardness, and frequency of erections.

Nutritional expert, Dr. Jonathan Wright, explains the mechanism in men: "Molecules of NO are generated when an enzyme called NO synthase (NOS)�which is abundant in the nerve and muscle cells in and around the penis�strips away a nitrogen atom (N) from a passing molecule of the amino acid L-Arginine � and combines it with an atom of oxygen (O)." 2

In other words, in order to produce nitric oxide in the body, a nitrogen atom must combine with an oxygen molecule in the blood. The enzyme called nitric oxide synthase controls this reaction.

L-Arginine has a similar EFFECTS IN WOMEN

Higher blood flow makes clitoral and vaginal tissues more sensitive and responsive to sexual stimulation and helps increase the possibility of reaching orgasm. Although there haven't been nearly as many studies done on arginine supplementation in women as in men, one study found that postmenopausal women who took a supplement including L-Arginine experienced heightened sexual response.3

Another study involving 77 women of all ages found that after four weeks, 73.5% of the women who took a supplement including L-Arginine experienced greater sexual satisfaction, including heightened desire and clitoral sensation, frequency of intercourse and orgasm, and less vaginal dryness.4

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Both men and women report that L-Arginine seems to increase their libido or desire for sex, and some also report that L-Arginine gives them greater endurance and stronger, more powerful orgasms. Reports also suggest that L-Arginine supplements can improve fertility in men who have low sperm counts or poor sperm motility (activity).





Improve Your Love Life and Fertility

In a study published in a 1999 issue of BJU International, researchers found that 5 grams of L-arginine daily for six weeks improved the sexual function in men with erectile dysfunction. Because L-arginine stimulates nitric oxide in the body and increases blood flow, it is thought to help with erectile dysfunction, increasing the flow of blood to the genital area as well.

The Journal of the American Medical Association reports that 43 percent of women and 31 percent of men suffer from sexual dysfunction, which is broadly defined as the inability to fully enjoy sexual intercourse. For women, this can include a low sex drive or the inability to experience an orgasm. Men experience sexual dysfunction as impotence, also referred to as erectile dysfunction.

Based on hundreds of studies, L-arginine has become known as a safe and effective prosexual nutrient for men and women. Both men and women report that L-Arginine seems to increase their desire for sex, and some also report that L-Arginine gives them greater endurance and more powerful orgasms.

L-Arginine can be an excellent supplement for anyone wanting to increase his or her sexual arousal, improve performance, and overall health. Unlike prescription drugs, like Viagra, both men and women can take the supplement.

Other Health Benefits of L-Arginine


Aside from increased muscle mass and helping with sexual dysfunction, L-arginine has many other health benefits. They include:

Promotes circulation resulting in improved blood flow

Stimulates the release of growth hormone

Improves immune function

Reduces healing time of injuries

Plays a role in the formation of bone and tendons

Lower cholesterol level 

Supports normal blood pressure

    ROYAL JELLY

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    Royal Jelly is a substance derived from the pharyngeal glands of the honey bee. This �super food� of the bees is specially blended with enzymes and fed to each bee destined to become a queen. It is the exclusive food of the queen bee throughout her highly productive life, enabling her to lay up to 3,000 eggs per day during her six-year lifespan. Worker bees eating ordinary honey live only four to six weeks. Royal Jelly can help support the immune system, increase energy
    , and benefit the skin and hair.
    • Increase Libido
    • Support egg and sperm health
    • Reduce the sign of aging 
    • Boosts energy and supports the immune system
    • Easily absorbed and readily digestible
    • No preservatives, artificial colors or flavors

    Friday 14 August 2015

    TOMORROW IS MY BIRTHDAY

    Tomorrow is August 15th, my birthday.  

    Funny, I remember how much fun we had last year on this day.  I blogged about it here.
    We were offered a stay-cation from the people over at Loews Regency at their hotel, which we LOVED....thank God, because we needed the rest. We were even allowed to bring our boxer Darla (miss her), she was happy & so well-behaved during our stay.  Last year around the same time, we also started our adoption process.  Mostly on faith, we went for it...not having all the funds quite yet, but believing that God would provide when the time came to hold our child.  God is fascinating, because he gives us hope & that hope leads us to our future. 

    Just like in Jeremiah 29:11 - "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.



    Today, I sit here in awe of the changes in my life this year.  This birthday is one I'll always remember ....because it is the first birthday I get to hold this little boy, our son.  My husband & I are so grateful.  So many birthdays went by where I prayed & blew out candles wishing for a child...and tomorrow my only wish will be that Noah would LOVE us as much as WE LOVE HIM.  For the big day, my husband has planned a few things, and as some of you may know - he's a complete charmer when he tries to impress me.  Don't believe me?  Here's what he did last year.  Getting gifts is nice - but knowing that you have LOVE, is best gift ever.

    I keep wondering what the rest of my birthdays will hold for me.  If you ask me right now, I'd love to
    • travel more by road (not fond of flying)
    • continue to work on my marriage (keeping it strong)
    • get involved more with helping others in some way
    • maybe write a book & tell my story, inspire others
    • paint more 
    • keep working out & staying healthy
    • raise my son in a Godly way

    "We can make our plans, but the Lord determines our steps." - Proverbs 16:9 - so we shall see.

    Have a great weekend everyone!




    -post by jen ramos




    Superfluid Dark Matter



    A new paper proposes that dark matter may be a quantum fluid that has condensed in puddles to seed galaxies.
    If Superfluid was a superhero, it would creep through the tiniest door slits and flow up the walls to then freeze the evil villain to death. Few things are cooler than superfluids, an utterly fascinating state that some materials, such as Helium, reach at temperatures close to absolute

    Thursday 13 August 2015

    Fashion: Reformation


    Today, I want to introduce you to a shop I really love called Reformation

    They're a fashion brand that supports & practices sustainability.  The company is fairly new, (created in 2009), and led by Yael Aflalo.  They design & manufacture limited-edition collections in their  own sustainable factory located in Los Angeles. I love this concept because the prices are more affordable while still obtaining a quality product. Smart. 

    For me personally, I love this brand, they have a unique style & their collections are simple & sophisticated.  Here are a few of my faves from their shop.  Unfortunately for me, I wanted this Avalon top (in black), but it's sold out!  But,  I also love this Moraine top in black.  

    What do you think of their collection?
     


    -post by jen ramos


    Wednesday 12 August 2015

    Stokke Baby

    Have you checked out my instagram lately? 

    I posted about this super cool baby carrier by StokkeBaby.  Love it. Of course, I chose the all-black one for Noah, and he seems pretty comfy in it. It does have a lot  of straps, but I suppose that's a good thing to keep the baby secure and snug right
     
    It supports the baby and my back doesn't feel like it's giving out either. This carrier is hip & of course functional - I  recommend it. You can buy the same one here.


    Check out a few more shots on my instagram.



    -by jen ramos



    Tuesday 11 August 2015

    My August Wishlist 2

    Hello everyone, hope you're enjoying your Tuesday so far. I've been thinking about my birthday wishes (and yes, on a SUPERFICIAL-level), because the things I truly desire cannot be bought...but since this is my blog, and I ENJOY fashion, we'll start there.

    So, August is my birth month. On the 15th I'll be a year older & with that I am posting a few wish lists so that my husband can see some of the things I like.  A lot of times I have NO CLUE what to get him for his birthday either, I admit. So every year I put together a few wishlists on my blog to help him out. This is actually my 2nd list,  here is my 1st.

    Maybe you'd like some of these too for your Birthday if you're a fellow Leo like me?



    1/    agnes sandal by joie
    2/  current elliot skinny jeans
    3/   booties via the outnet
    4/ givenchy le rouge lipstick corail signature
    5/   black nike
    8/    cassina dress via joie
    9/   green pumps via schutz





    -post by jen ramos



    Monday 10 August 2015

    GAP BABY: MY PICKS

    Baby Gap is one of my go-to places to shop when I'm looking for cute & whimsical baby clothing. Since Noah was born, I've shopped there & I love their selection!  They have the cutest illustrations on their jumpsuits and onesies. 

    I find that a lot of baby clothing stores can be a bit tacky...meaning too bright & colorful. Not at Baby Gap, they're kids clothing are simple, yet still fashionable & fun!  These are my FAVE picks for both boys & girls this Summer. 


     

    -Post by jen ramos







    Dear Dr. Bee: Why do some people assume that the Planck length/time are the minimum possible length and time?


    �Given that the Planck mass is nothing like a minimum possible mass, why do some people assume that the Planck length/time are the minimum possible length and time? If we have no problem with there being masses that are (much) smaller than the Planck mass, why do we assume that the Planck length and time are the fundamental units of quantisation? Why could there not be smaller distances and

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    EFFECTS OF OVER WEIGHT IN SEXUAL PERFORMANCE

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    Obesity not only leads to lifestyle diseases like diabetes, heart disease, cancer but also can dampen your sex life. It can lead to lack of sexual stamina, sexual dysfunction and hormonal imbalance.

    Also the medicines you take for various diseases that go hand-in-hand with obesity like diabetes, heart disease and hypertension can lead to lack of libido and erectile dysfunction among other sex-related problems. With 1.5 billion people around the world in the overweight category, sex-related concerns of obesity is a situation various healthcare services will have to deal with sooner than later. Here are the top ten ways obesity can harm your sex life:
    ERECTILE  DYSFUNCTION

    Did you know that
    obese men are far likelier to suffer from erectile dysfunction (ED) or impotency? Problems associated with obesity like high cholesterol, hypertension, diabetes prevent efficient blood flow to all parts of the body including the penis, thus causing issues with erection. Various studies have shown that even losing a little amount of weight can help beat the condition.

    HORMONAL  IMBALANCE LEADING TO LOW LIBIDO

    Obesity is directly linked to hormonal imbalance and lower testosterone levels, which in turn can inhibit sexual desires in both men and women. Another issue is that increased body fat leads to more sex hormone binding globulins (SHBG) in the system. SHBG is a natural chemical that binds to testosterone, which means that there is less of the sex hormone left to handle the demands of a normal sex life. There has also been evidence to suggest that obesity in young boys can lead to fatigue and development of male breasts. In young girls it can lead to PCOD, irregular menstrual cycle and thyroid problems.

    INFERTILITY

    In women, obesity leads to abnormalities in their eggs that make them harder to fertilise. Brigham and Women�s Hospital infertility researchers examined nearly 300 eggs that failed to fertilise during IVF and found obese women�s eggs were likelier to have chromosomal abnormalities. It also causes excess insulin production and PCOD (a condition where the periods are irregular and ovaries produce small, immature eggs instead of healthy mature ones). Obese women are also likely to suffer from failed pregnancies and miscarriages than regular weighing ones. Here is how to combat vaginal dryness naturally to have pleasurable sex.

    In men, obesity is directly linked to infertility because of the way it affects sperm. Research has found that men who consume a fatty diet have lower quality of sperm. Men consuming more saturated fats had 35 percent lower total sperm count and 38 percent lower sperm concentration than men who ate healthier.

    OBESITY-RELATED DISEASE THAT HINDER SEX

    People who are heavy, particularly in the central abdomen area tend to suffer from a host of diseases which can affect their sex lives in various ways. This can be due to physiological or psychological reasons or due to medicines taken for the disease. Diabetes, heart disease, cancer, hypertension, depression, dementia and other ailments all affect your sexual functioning. In fact, one of the most tell-tale symptoms of diabetes is erectile dysfunction. Medicines too, ranging from anti-depressants to those used to treat heart conditions, high blood pressure and cholesterol can lead to sexual issues like impotence,  decreased sex drive, ejaculation problems and even delayed or no orgasms.  Here�s a complete list of medicines that can affect your sexual life.

    BURIED PENIS SYNDROME

    Folds of abdominal fat and skin in obese men make the penis look rather small or even �buried� at times. Called the �buried penis syndrome�, it can seriously hamper sex lives. This however, should not be confused with the �micropenis� which is a condition where the erect penis measures less than 3 inches. This is mostly a congenital disorder in children and can affect around 0.6% of the male population.

    STDs AND UNWANTED PREGNANCIES

    Since obese people are likely to have less sex than the others, they are likelier to exhibit high-risk sexual behaviour. An American study found that obese women were four times likelier to have unplanned pregnancies because they�re less likely to be prepared for intercourse. They are also less likely to use oral or other forms of contraceptives. A French study found a similar situation among obese men despite having lesser sexual partners.

    FEWER SEX POSITION POSSIBLE

    Sadly, the sheer logistics of sex can change when one or both partners are fat and can make coitus in some positions particularly hard. The popular missionary position is out-of-bounds if the male partner is too heavy. And if both partners are obese, then the central abdominal area can prevent proper penetration. The rear entry style which is more popular among the obese can also cause problems because the woman usually has to spend a long amount of time on her knees. Spooning, a sex position where partners lie side by side is also hard for fat people. However, fat people shouldn�t fret and there are multitudes of positions that they can try with their partners.  Here�s a great article I came across about modified sex positions.

    LESS LIKELY TO HAVE SEX

    Let�s face it � we live in a society that judges us by our looks and obese people are always going to find it harder looking for a partner. The problem is even graver in a country like ours where it is okay for a man to be obese if he has a high-paying job or is from a rich family whereas it is almost impossible to find a groom for a �fat girl�.

    LOW SELF-ESTEEM DEPRESSION AND OTHER CONDITIONS

    We live in a society where obese people are routinely made fun of and termed as �lazy�, �stupid�, �dumb� or �slow�. This kind of segregation starts when a person is very young and obesity becomes the defining characteristic of an individual irrespective of her other qualities. This labelling sticks for life and anyone who has faced childhood obesity is likely to develop very low self-esteem. This promotes a negative body image which makes obese people uncomfortable in their skins. How can you be comfortable having sex, if all your life you�ve been told you�re ugly? Also various studies have shown obese people are far likelier to suffer from depression and other mental health problems which reduce libido and are likely to cause sexual dysfunction.

    LACK OF STAMINA

    Obesity is often associated with laziness and a sedentary lifestyle. And this may often percolate into their sex lives as well. In men, it will also significantly decrease the time they can maintain an erection.

    To sum it up, I don�t want to seem harsh pointing out how being fat or obese can harm your sex life. I was grossly obese myself and still continue to face multiple body image issues. But the fact remains that you can improve your sex life by simply losing a few pounds. And this will not only benefit your sex life but your overall health and well-being as well. What you�ve to realise is that the entire situation is in your own hand; you�re in control of your weight and you can choose to lose it whenever your heart desires.